#DearJamie

DEAR JAMIE,
I LOVE MY BOYFRIEND, BUT MY MOM DOESN’T LIKE HIM AND I THINK IT’S BECAUSE SHE’S JEALOUS. WHAT SHOULD I DO?
-NAE

Dear Nae,

You love your boyfriend. First and foremost, that is really all that matters in this situation. Having a significant other that your parents don’t approve of can be a difficult situation for anyone; especially if it’s due to personal reasons such as jealousy. However, all hope is not lost. Here are a few tips to rectify the relationship between your mom and your boyfriend:

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1. RESPECT YOUR MOM’S OPINION.
You don’t have to acknowledge that she’s right or wrong. Just let her know that you appreciate her concern. This will help ease any tension that this conflict has caused between you and her. Moms have a special intuition, and who knows? She could be onto something when it comes to your boyfriend.

2. TRY TO GET TO THE ROOT OF THE PROBLEM.
You mentioned that you think your mom is jealous of your relationship with your boyfriend. Have you talked to her about this? Simply asking her may help, and she may even have a valid reason. Try to discover why she may be jealous and start there. If she’s a single parent, maybe she needs a boyfriend of her own.

3. ARRANGE MORE PERSONAL TIME BETWEEN YOUR MOM AND YOUR BOYFRIEND.
Your mom may judge your boyfriend simply because she doesn’t know him. If they are around each other more and engage in personal activities such as watching a movie or going to the park, they may discover that they have some things in common. Sparks may even fly between the two of them.

Now, what if you try everything you can and your mom still isn’t convinced that your boyfriend is right for you? Then, you will have to accept that and remember that you must do what’s best for you. If your boyfriend respects you, treats you right and makes you happy then he’s probably a keeper. I hope these few tips will help your situation. Good luck Nae!

THIS POST WAS ORIGINALLY WRITTEN FOR THE RELATIONSHIP GOALS COLUMN FOR N’VISIONED MAGAZINE.
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